But weddings, like marriages, are imperfect and in the background, there may be discord, petty arguments, old rivalries, tears shed, and even broken hearts. These things are behind closed doors because the people who see them are the only ones who may be able forgive them. They are the ones who, in spite of all the heartache, will stand up on the wedding day to welcome guests, escort the bride, sing the ghazals, and dance the dances.
There is no use looking over you shoulder over what someone else supposedly has. The cards are dealt unevenly and they have had their fair share of thorns on their path. On their wedding day what you are witnessing is not someone saying, "Our life is, and will be, perfect." Rather, what they are trying to say is, "Life is fundamentally flawed, but we have love and we are together, so for a little while, that's enough. Let's celebrate."
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2 comments:
Very true, indeed. After our wedding, I got quite a few compliments, especially from the in-laws, about how lovely everything was and how smoothly everything went (mA). I thanked them, of course, but in my head, I was like "Oh boy, if you only knew all the drama, arguments, and tears that went into making sure it turned out like that!"
You also really do get to know who your friends are -- the ones who will listen to you agonizing over details and piping up with helpful suggestions rather than rolling their eyes at more wedding talk. I am very grateful that I had amazing friends and family with me every step of the way.
Our wedding party in Pakistan was exactly the same.. I had one friend come and she was amazed at how well it all was. She didnt see my sister in law shouting at everyone to stay in line, or the tears from me about the 'organisers' But its all over with now ;)
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