What makes your wedding unique? Is it your venue, the decorator, the caterer, the colour scheme? If someone else came along and copied what you did, would your wedding still belong to you? Would it still be your day, with the same vast array of emotions and memories and experiences?
Whether it's the unusual craziness of wedding planning, or the standard-issue cattiness and competition that comes with female friendship, I often encounter brides who are beside themselves because a friend is "copying" their venue or decor. It disturbs me to see them lose sleep over it, because if they were rational, they would see that it's impossible for anyone to duplicate their family, their fiance, their celebrations. If your main priority in choosing a factor of your wedding is being the first one to do it, you are doing anything but expressing your individuality and showing your class.
Everyone has their low points, that's fine, but when you find yourself resenting a fellow bride friend for having something similar to yours, remind yourself that there is no other wedding in the universe that will have you and your husband-to-be celebrating in a room full of your family. And ask yourself this: Am I important enough that my wedding is worth losing friends over?
And if you really can't handle the copying don't share every detail of your wedding planning process with everyone. Unless, of course, you are blogging it.
Image: Tarun Tahiliani via Bollywood Nerd