Whether it's the unusual craziness of wedding planning, or the standard-issue cattiness and competition that comes with female friendship, I often encounter brides who are beside themselves because a friend is "copying" their venue or decor. It disturbs me to see them lose sleep over it, because if they were rational, they would see that it's impossible for anyone to duplicate their family, their fiance, their celebrations. If your main priority in choosing a factor of your wedding is being the first one to do it, you are doing anything but expressing your individuality and showing your class.
Everyone has their low points, that's fine, but when you find yourself resenting a fellow bride friend for having something similar to yours, remind yourself that there is no other wedding in the universe that will have you and your husband-to-be celebrating in a room full of your family. And ask yourself this: Am I important enough that my wedding is worth losing friends over?
And if you really can't handle the copying don't share every detail of your wedding planning process with everyone. Unless, of course, you are blogging it.
Image: Tarun Tahiliani via Bollywood Nerd
3 comments:
Well said, Asiya. And it holds true is so many other arenas of life too, don't you think?
I love your zen bride posts!
xoxo,
G
@GB, it does indeed. I'm glad someone reads The Zen Bride...lol
I find them the hardest to write because they are always the most personal for me, as I always have to reach deep inside to remind myself before reminding others. I want to say I can practice what I preach, at least most of the time.
I love these posts you do.. and this was one of the ones I had hoped to blog about instead of leaving a comment, but I have forgotten what I was going to say so just a lil comment :D I think I was the last of my school friends to get married (although I didnt go to any weddings and only 1 girl came to mine) and there havent been any family weddings on either side yet.. So I was the first in that aspect.. trying to keep things simple and cheap was a big reason that my wedding turned out so unique (even if I do say so) and wanting a fusion of Asia (hubby from Pakistan) added that touch. We had sugar coated fennel seeds on each table, with bombay mix scattered around the seating area. No music, the small hotel conference rooms meant that the food was in a different room. Homemade cupcakes (which noone had ever seen before) and a 2 tier cake to cut brought the whole thing to a nice end. It was the small things I enjoyed organising and remembering. The handmade invitations me and hubby sat around making. The home made favour bags with mini eggs next to dried dates next to wedding rock :D
These memories will sure keep me going for along time masha'Allah
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