One of my fave bloggers, East Side Bride, regularly posts advice to brides who are dealing with crazy Maid of Honour situations. While I hope that most of you can avoid that drama, I think there are a few successful ground rules for treating your bridesmaids with class:You might have issues (your in-laws/parents are driving you crazy, you are nervous about the wedding day, you are having money problems), but so do your friends (they still haven't found someone, they are worried about the effect of marriage on your friendship, they are stressed out by other commitments, because their life is still moving, outside of the wedding bubble). They are allowed to have issues, and just as you hope they give you some leeway for yours, if you want them to be supportive of you, allow them some breathing space for whatever they are going through.
Respect that they are putting in a tremendous amount of time, energy, and money into participating in all the many wedding related events. In some cases, this can swallow up a few weeks of their time and hundreds of dollars of their money. If this means you cut down on your dress-code demands, offer to pay for at least one day's worth of outfits, or even just go a little further in your efforts to express your appreciation for their hard work, do it.
Just because you are getting married doesn't mean the relationship stakes will change. For example, if you have a friend who likes to complain, she probably won't change into a patient, forbearing individual for your wedding. If you had a way of dealing with it before, and a reason to love them in spite of their faults in everyday situations, use it now.
These are your friends, you chose them to be around you on your wedding day because they have been supportive, fun and in your confidence for a long time. Remember this, and forgive them if they make a mistake. Don't allow the heightened emotional tension surrounding the temporary matter of a wedding ruin the permanent blessing of your friendship.
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Respect that they are putting in a tremendous amount of time, energy, and money into participating in all the many wedding related events. In some cases, this can swallow up a few weeks of their time and hundreds of dollars of their money. If this means you cut down on your dress-code demands, offer to pay for at least one day's worth of outfits, or even just go a little further in your efforts to express your appreciation for their hard work, do it.
Just because you are getting married doesn't mean the relationship stakes will change. For example, if you have a friend who likes to complain, she probably won't change into a patient, forbearing individual for your wedding. If you had a way of dealing with it before, and a reason to love them in spite of their faults in everyday situations, use it now.
These are your friends, you chose them to be around you on your wedding day because they have been supportive, fun and in your confidence for a long time. Remember this, and forgive them if they make a mistake. Don't allow the heightened emotional tension surrounding the temporary matter of a wedding ruin the permanent blessing of your friendship.
Image via Bollywood Nerd
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